Dear Venus,
When we first started dating, my boyfriend used to surprise me by occasionally sending me flowers at work, but now that we've been together for over a year, he never sends me flowers at all anymore. Not even for our anniversary, my birthday, or Valentine's Day! How can I hint to him that I would really love to see a nice bouquet on my desk at work sometime "just because?" ?
-A Rose by Any Other Name

Dear A Rose by Any Other Name,
Your problem is a very common one. Many guys like to use gifts of the floral variety to flatter and impress the objects of their affection in the beginning of the relationship. However, as the relationship progresses, some men apparently begin to suffer from a neurological disorder that causes the "thoughtfulness" part of their brain to go dead. Unfortunately, science has yet to find a cure for this problem.

So I suggest unabashed hinting. The next time you two are in the grocery store and pass the little display of bouquets, point and start raving about how pretty those flowers are, how much you love flowers, and how nice it would be to have flowers delivered to you at work so you can have a bouquet of flowers on your desk. (Repeating the word "flowers" as often as possible is necessary since men also sometimes suffer from a neurological disorder that causes them to be oblivious to obvious hints.) If that fails, there is always the time-honored tradition of sending yourself flowers in order to make your boyfriend jealous. If he thinks some "secret admirer" is giving you daisies, chances are he'll be sending you roses in no time.
-Venus

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